As I was eating lunch today, just suddenly a thought popped out! Just yesterday I was talking to my girlfriends about how this hamba Allah that likes to look down on others and it linked to something that I noticed happening to some. In fact, it happened to me too once before!
Sometimes, I dont understand why we judge on others. Yes, perceptions are important but what about those issues that we judge that just dont make sense. For instance, the way the person dresses padahal underneath those clothes, the person owns the biggest heart ever! I have to say, some girls yang has worn the tudung probably sejak azali lagi, have this kind of mentality. Not all, but some. Get it, get it right please. They see others that dont wear tudung, that does not cover their aurats and they start pulling that look towards the person. Pandang sebelah mata je.
Question is, who in the world are YOU to judge? I remember there was this one incident that happened to a friend of mine,before she actually hijrah-ed. She went to her boyfriend's house with her sister's friend which was this guy cause she left something in her boyfriend's car. So, when she rang the door bell and the boyfriend's sister came out to approach them outside and the sister is of course, berhijab lah. She came out from the house and my friend reached out to salam but the boyfriend's sister actually pandang sebelah mata je. In fact, she dint pay much attention to her but talked to her sister's friend instead. My friend became uncomfortable and felt uneasy too, wondering why. What did she do wrong? Padahal she came to the house dengan cara yang baik but why did her boyfriend's sister made her feel invisible? Thus, it wasnt that she was wearing something inappropriate. She was wearing something really descent.
After about a month or so, it was just a few days after she hijrah-ed she bumped into her boyfriend's sister and she was shocked and she actually approached my friend nicely. See the difference? When the boyfriend's sister went home and told the brother(my friend's boyfriend), she admitted at first she kurang berkenan because she wasn't wearing tudung.
You see... that's the thing, the mentality that needs to be changed. You dont look at the person like that, You dont just judge a person without giving her a chance to show herself. Belum apa-apa lagi dah kemain lagi assume she's this and that. That is totally&completely 100% wrong! Islam teaches Us to always berbaik sangka too! Not only that, sometimes the girls that looks down on these people who doesnt wear a hijab ni pun, pakai baju lengan pendek tapi pakai tudung, pakai tudung pun tak tutup dada, pakai seluar ketat and U wanna be looking at those girls like that? To me, why judge people when we ourselves pun haven't really corrected ourselves properly. We should be looking in the mirror and muhasabah diri and try to figure out how to be better and improve ourselves. There should always be an urge to want to be better and not think that we're all that and Im done here, I dah tutup aurat,I solat tak tinggal, I berpuasa, I mengaji, I know if I die, I'll be going to heaven. My name is already in the list in Firdaus. Pffffttttt, Hell No. Never be riak! Rasulullah s.a.w pun hari-hari solat sunat taubat, minta ampun dengan Allah s.w.t. And I am talking about Rasulullah here, manusia paling Allah s.w.t sayangkan yang obviously will be in heaven. So, who in the world are you to be all riak? Who are you to look down at these people when Rasulullah s.a.w sendiri pun has never done that! So, think again when U feel like judging others.
I remember about 2 years ago, and of course during that time, I haven't received my special hidayah just yet, I was chosen to represent my school for this PPDa (Program Pencegahan Dadah) program that was under Petronas' campaign. I was the only one who was chosen, so I dint quite have a partner. So, i was a loner there. The program was held at Klang and when I reached there, I was the only girl who wasn't in tudung! All the girls were all in their tudungs except for this chinese girl and she was the only chinese there. But, knowing me I just fit myself in the group. I made myself feel comfortable and approached everybody! The girls there, not even one discriminated me. Not even one, looked at me like I was some alien. Not even one, looked down on me. They treated me like I was one of them! After that program, there was this other one which was the Alumni Program that was held in Port Dickson, and that program was a Kebangsaan program so all the students that represented their school from every state were there! The chinese girl was no longer there of course so imagine, ramai gila orang and I was the only alien girl that did not wear the tudung! I was the only different one but guess what? NOBODY made me feel all awkward and all. They were all so nice to me. In fact, I even made a good friend there, Tiqah from Kelantan. I was pretty much close with the boys though (memang I ni ganas) and Tiqah too! we all became really good friends. So, there you see... This should be an example of how you should be like. So, dont judge an alien! hahaha and maybe berkat of their doa lah, I became who I am today. Who knows? *Alhamdulillah*
I remember about 2 years ago, and of course during that time, I haven't received my special hidayah just yet, I was chosen to represent my school for this PPDa (Program Pencegahan Dadah) program that was under Petronas' campaign. I was the only one who was chosen, so I dint quite have a partner. So, i was a loner there. The program was held at Klang and when I reached there, I was the only girl who wasn't in tudung! All the girls were all in their tudungs except for this chinese girl and she was the only chinese there. But, knowing me I just fit myself in the group. I made myself feel comfortable and approached everybody! The girls there, not even one discriminated me. Not even one, looked at me like I was some alien. Not even one, looked down on me. They treated me like I was one of them! After that program, there was this other one which was the Alumni Program that was held in Port Dickson, and that program was a Kebangsaan program so all the students that represented their school from every state were there! The chinese girl was no longer there of course so imagine, ramai gila orang and I was the only alien girl that did not wear the tudung! I was the only different one but guess what? NOBODY made me feel all awkward and all. They were all so nice to me. In fact, I even made a good friend there, Tiqah from Kelantan. I was pretty much close with the boys though (memang I ni ganas) and Tiqah too! we all became really good friends. So, there you see... This should be an example of how you should be like. So, dont judge an alien! hahaha and maybe berkat of their doa lah, I became who I am today. Who knows? *Alhamdulillah*
Anyway, always go back to the core and muhasabah diri sendiri. Check Ur own flaws cause we'll never run away from flaws with or without the hijab on us. If U think U wearing the hijab makes U better the rest then YOU ARE WRONG! To me, wearing the hijab is a symbol, a symbol of respect towards our Religion and of course it is what we have been directed to do by Allah s.w.t and also a reminder that we should have the urge to be better each day. It is like our crown but not a crown that says "Im Perfect and Im better than the rest of you that aren't wearing tudung". Dont be surprise that there are some yang tak berhijab ni lebih baik daripada yang berhijab.
My sister, Kak Fa is right when she said.. "Kita ni contoh kebesaran Allah"
The reason why is, we were once so jahil, we were only Islam according to our ICs but we dint act like one but hey! with a blink of an eye, Allah s.w.t actually flipped our hearts like a pancake flipped! Just like that and Alhamdulillah, look at how we are now. Not saying that we are perfect but so much improvements that has been made. Maybe with the help of the ones that loves Us' doa, this happened!We've learned so much along the way and hoping to learn plenty more about Islam. We grew so much in love with our religion. I personally feel its like Im a cup that's awaiting to be filled each and every day.
The moral is, If U truly know what Islam is all about then why dont every time U pass by someone yang well, belum lagi berhijab, doa for them. Never should U underestimate the power of doa. Ur power is doa, not U being all judgemental on someone and pulling faces. If Ur doing that, Ur not showing a good example towards Ur own religion. If U berhijab, always remember U're Allah's example and U should be showing everybody else how Great Islam is. Islam wont seem Great if Ur being all judgemental on others. We were never taught that way in the Quran but we were taught otherwise. We were taught to make Dua. Never descriminate nor look down on others.
So, stop judging instead, DUA
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Jazakallah Khayrun
&May Allah bless Us all
Wassalam
